Help Save Marriage Now

You will find this very enlightening report on the BBC website which was posted today. As we read it, one may wonder if all this has some relevance to the status of many a marriage today. I recommended that you  read it for the very fact that you may be aware of such information may help save a marriage, if not yours then of a friend someday.

A report was put up in the journal Scientific Reports which actually reveals that women phone their partner a lot more than any other particular person. What’s more, it demonstrates that men call their other half most frequently in the initial seven years of the relationship. Then they move most of their attention to various buddies. The information originate from an evaluation of the text messages from cell phone calls involving 3 million individuals.

As reported by the study’s co-author, Prof. Robin Dunbar from Oxford University, United Kingdom, the particular investigation implies that pair-bonding is a lot more crucial to women than men.

“It is the very first definitely proof that romances are powered by women,” he told BBC News.

“It’s they who make the decision and once they have made their mind up, they just go for the poor bloke until he keels over and gives in!”

He went on to say:

“But the data shows that women start to switch the preference of their best friend from about the mid-30s, and by the age of 45 a woman of a generation younger becomes the “new best friend”, according to Professor Dunbar.

“What seems to happen is that women push the ‘old man’ out to become their second best friend, and he gets called much less often and all her attention is focussed on her daughters just at the point at which you are likely to see grandchildren arriving,” he says

The researchers discovered that men often pick a woman the same age group as themselves – that the researchers suspected being their girlfriend or even wife – as a best friend much later in life than women do, as well as a significantly shorter period. This happens when they’re in their early-30s, perhaps in the course of courtship, and ceases just after 7 years roughly.

Women, on the other hand, decide on a man with a the same age to become their best friend from age Twenty. The guy continues to be for around Fifteen years, then he is substituted by a daughter.

“It’s the first really strong evidence that romantic relationships are driven by women,” he told BBC News.

“It’s they who make the decision and once they have made their mind up, they just go for the poor bloke until he keels over and gives in!”

But the data shows that women start to switch the preference of their best friend from about the mid-30s, and by the age of 45 a woman of a generation younger becomes the “new best friend”, according to Professor Dunbar.

“What seems to happen is that women push the ‘old man’ out to become their second best friend, and he gets called much less often and all her attention is focussed on her daughters just at the point at which you are likely to see grandchildren arriving,” he says.

Here’s something that may bear some sort of relevance to the status of marriage these days.  Prof Dunbar claims that the findings suggest that human societies are moving away from a patriarchy back to a matriarchy.  You’ll find it nearly as if the pendulum involving the two sexes, power-wise, is without a doubt swinging (back again) since we depart from agriculture to a knowledge-based economy,” he says.

You can read more of the report on the study at BBC > Phone data shows romance ‘driven by women’